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Girl Power Inspiration of the Day

Never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.”–Clementine Paddleford


I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next.
Delicious Ambiguity.
— Gilda Radner

After a While

Although I do keep up to date on current events, especially juicy celeb news (“Duh, WINNING!”), I will admit I am not much of a newspaper reader.  Home delivery is expensive and I’m not going to go out of my way to buy a paper.  But when I lived at home, I would read the newspaper my grandmother brought over every day.  OK, fine . . . I only read the comics, but still, I was flipping through the paper!  And in my local paper on the same pages with the comics were the crosswords and advice columns.  I remember coming across this poem probably about 20 years ago in either Dear Abby or Ann Landers or one of those columns.  It really spoke to me because I felt it represented the feelings of a teenage girl (which is what I was at the time) and I still remember it to this day.  I’m a very sensitive person and at times when I feel I am getting too emotional over people or situations, I look for this poem. It talks of life and love and the notion that things do get better, and to rely on yourself more than you rely on anyone else for inspiration or self-worth.  It may sound a little sad at first reading, but I think it’s a very empowering piece for women of any age.

After A While by Veronica Shoffstall (1971)

After a while, you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t mean security,
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises,
And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes open,
With the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child,
And learn to build all your roads on today
Because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans,
And futures have a way of falling down in midflight
And after a while, you learn
That even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure…
That you really are strong
And you really do have worth
And you learn and learn…
With every goodbye, you learn.

A Wise Spice once told me . . .

When life seems bad and work sucks and it seems like it can’t get any worse, remember you could be the person handing out flyers in a lobster costume on Madison Avenue. Wait a minute, maybe that IS better? . . .

That lucky SOB . . . or LOB . . . now I'm just confused.